Parents’ mistakes that cause low self-esteem in children

Parents’ mistakes that cause low self-esteem in their children: 

Sometimes parents are responsible, either for their actions or omissions, for the low self-esteem of their children. In we tell you some of the mistakes that parents make and that lower the self-esteem of children so that you can avoid them.

Besides, we give you tips that you can put into practice so that you can stop lowering the child’s self-esteem and increase and strengthen it.

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6 tips to avoid damaging children’s self-esteem

Don't yell at them to be a good parent
Don’t yell at them to be a good parent [Kids Rush Images]
Children who have low self-esteem do not feel well integrated, loved, or accepted in their family, and sometimes, they seek to belong to other environments that are not always the most appropriate. They also tend to have problems at school as they do not have enough confidence in themselves to face the challenges. To prevent your children from having low self-esteem and having these and other problems, you should:

  1. Do not criticize him with the verb ‘to be’

Avoid stiffness to be a good parent
Avoid stiffness to be a good parent |Kids Rush Images|

If the child behaves badly, you should never say things like ‘you are stupid’, or ‘you are bad’ since that way what we do is make the child believe that he is bad or silly.

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  1. Never criticize in public

When the child has a bad attitude in public, except to scold him in private and do not remonstrate his actions in front of others.

  1. Do not insist on the past

We can no longer change the bad actions that children have committed, therefore instead of insisting on what he did, we must give him guidelines or ideas of how we want him to behave next time.

  1. Never compare him

With the brother, cousin, or friend. Each person is unique and has their talent and it is each one’s job to find it and contribute it to the world. Compare what you do is to ignore the child’s talent.

  1. Not justifying the past with the present

Many parents tend to justify their attitude to their children because they were treated like this themselves. For example, in the case of physical punishment, they tend to justify it with phrases such as ‘my parents spanked me and nothing happened to me, so I spanked my son’. Today we know much more about psychology or emotional management than was known before, so it is a poor excuse not to want to learn to improve.

  1. Having low self-esteem

If in a while you have not managed to raise your child’s self-esteem, perhaps you need to review your own. How much do you love or accept yourself unconditionally? Reinforcing and stimulating one’s self-esteem is basic because for children we are role models.